The corruption of the family court system...

Dealing with a compulsive liar? ...well now you are dealing with the reality of HELL

You know we all have one in our lives... the liar. Not just someone who is a occasional liar, no-I'm talking liar who takes it to a compulsive degree. There is a point where you see yourself constantly backtracking to only find yourself spun into a web and unable to find your way out. No it's not your own web of lies... but somehow you got intertwined in the other persons lies. Some have you so twisted in the lies that you don't even realize it! 


Phew that's was exhausting!

It doesn't matter if it's a ex, spouse, family member, or friend we all have found ourselves in this situation. Or maybe just maybe unbeknownst to you your own web entrapped someone in your web of lies. 


But then there are the Pathological Liars... ah yes the ones who just can't stop. They actually know they are liars but they can't stop... or worse they don't want to stop! Personally I think that they know they are telling lies but they have themselves so convince of it that they actually believe their lie to be truth. Frankly that part scares me.

Pseudologia Fantastica aka Pathological Liar aka Mythomania

A psychological condition, otherwise known as pathological or compulsive lying, in which the sufferer habitually lies. The lies are caused by an internal need to lie, not environmental or social factors. Unlike in psychotic or delusional disorders, people with this condition can recognize they are lying, though they may be unwilling to do it, leading to anger, confusion, and (in some cases) violence following confrontation.

See it even happens to rich and famous mothers...

Case 1... but most all of us relate to case 2

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CASE TWO, having the addition of a helpful CUSTODY EVALUATOR

(1) The parties each have a limited but adequate amount of litigation funds. Each of them hires a lawyer.

(2) Lawyer A subpoenas witnesses and gathers evidence pertaining to each of the statutory custody factors.

(3) Lawyer B subpoenas witnesses and gathers evidence pertaining to each of the statutory custody factors.

(4) The witnesses are deposed, and each party's evidence is examined by the other.

(5) A date is set for hearing for which the judge, peeved that the case didn't settle, and in the habit of avoiding responsibility for custody issues, allows inadequate time to hear the evidence.

(6) At the hearing, the lawyers rush through an inadequate presentation of their respective cases. At the end of this inadequate cursory hearing, the judge does not feel that he has sufficient information to make a decision, and so his ruling, as he anticipated for that likelihood, is for the appointment of a custody evaluator.

(7) The parties are ordered to take a portion of their litigation funds and divert them to payment of the evaluator. When one party objects, the judge makes a snappy quip poo-pooing this objection and pointing out that the party had plenty of money to hire a private lawyer and issue lots of subpoenas and do depositions.(The delays also screw up decision-making on financial issues)

(8) The evaluator, a psychologist or other mental health professional, not qualified by training to act as a judge or investigator or legal analyst, let alone pose as an "expert" in these matters, who nevertheless believes he is the "eyes and ears of the court" and all-around uber-mavin, commences his detective work.  He reinterviews some of each party's witnesses and ignores others. He decides that he needs to hear from school personnel, doctors, and other "collaterals" who have not been introduced by either party and proceeds to send these people letters, and hold telephone and in-person interviews with them. Some of them he finds credible, and some not, and on his own, weights what they have to say accordingly. He second-guesses the parties' respective presentations of the various custody factors, and decides that some of them, such as "morality" are not relevant. 

He ignores legal presumptions or burdens of proof applicable to others, because he does not understand them. He applies a criminal law burden of proof ("beyond a reasonable doubt") to factors that strike him as being similar to criminal matters. To others that he feels come within some area of his "scientific expertise" he applies the standard of "to a reasonable degree of scientific certainty" -- and if they don't meet that, discounts them altogether.         He has the parties and the children come back and forth to his office for multiple meetings in different combinations. He also has all of them sit for a battery of psychometric tests. He decides that there are diagnoses that could be applied to one or both parties, as well as additional issues in the case that they could have but did not introduce, and so includes these. 

        He does a home study in which he fantasizes about whether he would enjoy living as a kid in the parties' respective houses.... etc.

(9) The custody evaluator issues a report with recommendations, which may or may comport with what the judge in Case One would have decided, but frequently are somewhat or altogether different, and in some cases are completely crackpot, the result of ignorant thinking riddled with bias. But let's not presume anything for purposes of this exercise, and say only that Party A likes the recommendations and Party B does not. If one or both parties now have been drained of available funds, an unhealthy, unjust, or unworkablesettlement might occur at this point. If not...

(10) A date is set for a second hearing, for which the court again allows inadequate time to hear the evidence because he thinks he can rely mostly on the court-appointed custody evaluator's recommendations. This second hearing is going to be primarily about, not the case, but the custody evaluator and what he did. Even though the court has shortchanged the parties' time at both hearings, the combined time, with the addition of multiple interim hearings and discovery squabbling, will now likely far exceed what the judge in Case One had to provide.

(11) Lawyer A issues subpoenas and gathers evidence pertaining to the custody evaluator, his training, and the favorable and/or new witnesses and hearsay evidence he used in his report, in order to support Lawyer A's case at the upcoming second hearing. Some of this involves re-doing work already done for prior witnesses who, according to the evaluator, provided evidence different from their prior testimony.

(12) Lawyer B issues subpoenas and gathers evidence pertaining to the custody evaluator, his training, his investigation process, his tests, and unfavorable and/or new witnesses and hearsay evidence he used in his report. Some of this is requires legal wrangling with a recalcitrant psych, or psycho-babble-specific work, which induces Lawyer B to hire a consulting forensic. Some of this involves re-doing work already done for prior witnesses who, according to the evaluator, provided evidence different from their prior testimony.

(13) The amount of legal work for the parties and lawyers, and the complexity and cost of the case now has been increased exponentially.Exacerbating this...

(14) Party B hires a reviewing evaluator to help him prove that the court-appointed evaluator was inexpert, untrained, biased, or otherwise did his evaluation improperly, and plans to move for a second evaluation.

(15) Lawyer A issues subpoenas and evidence pertaining to the custody evaluation reviewer, his training, his thinking processes, and depending upon how bad the court appointee apparently was, also may hire a consulting forensic...

(...) At some point it's such a mess that no one remembers what the issues in the case originally were. Years may go by. Judges rotate and change. Parties run out of money. Lawyers withdraw for nonpayment. Tempers flare. Mistakes are made. Squabbling over discovery geometrically increases.. Because of the lengthy time in which the litigation continues, new events occur which have to be addressed. Temporary judicial orders based on inadequate and bad evidence have been repeatedly uttered, contested, and possibly appealed. A frustrated judge may order a parenting coordinator. One or the other party may be ordered into various supervised visitations or therapies at the recommendation of the custody evaluator, or of a guardian ad litem who thinks that custody evaluators know what they are doing. Parties positions harden and polarize. An inordinate amount of parental time and money, resources that otherwise should have gone to the family and for the children is forever gone... and it just goes on and on...